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21 November 2010 @ 09:22 pm
A question for the ages.  
Why do I work so hard to avoid doing things I really want to do?
Ryuu: Discworld - Hoppity-skipkarma_aster on November 22nd, 2010 05:23 am (UTC)
Human nature?
Little Red: sga - lizzie facepalmmylittleredgirl on November 22nd, 2010 05:32 am (UTC)
Hmm, I was hoping it would be something simple, like a Vitamin B deficiency.
Ryuu: Star Trek - Data Spotkarma_aster on November 23rd, 2010 01:44 am (UTC)
Oh, but what fun would a simple explanation be?
i'll squeal said shesaidshe on November 24th, 2010 09:15 am (UTC)
oh i wish i wish i wish i wish that could be solved with more vitamin B! i would become a major investor! (or would i end up putting off buying it until some kind soul slipped me some?!)
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Little Red: peanuts - rejection slips - alivicwilmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 12:56 am (UTC)
But how does that explain the times when I, like, go to great lengths to avoid watching a TV episode I want to see? I think I'm mis-wired.
anranr on November 22nd, 2010 10:19 am (UTC)
fear of failure. i knows, because i has it too. hmph.
Little Red: peanuts - rejection slips - alivicwilmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 01:00 am (UTC)
It would make sense if it was like legit failure, and not just me going "the next thing I type might not be good and I'll delete it right away and no one else will see it but it will be BURNED INTO MY MEMORY FOR ALL TIME!"

We need to make a support group so we can procrastinate doing that and call it productive.
Fallon Ash: vala distant dreamerfallon_ash on November 22nd, 2010 10:51 am (UTC)
My answer feels so shallow compared to those above, but it usually goes 'I wanted to!, but [insert name of random pretty actress] distracted me'. I've tried to explain this to my mother that I work just as hard to avoid reading that book I've been so excited about, or write that blog-post I've been thinking about, as I do to cleaning the bathroom.
Little Red: sga - lizzie facepalmmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 01:10 am (UTC)
Hee! See, I suppose I have been distracted by Dancing With the Stars lately, because there are a lot of pretty girls in sequins and boys in revealing shirts. Yep. I think I've watched this rather grainy, somewhat messy number like twelve times while procrastinating NaNo because of how much I covet Anna (the redhead)'s awesomely trashy outfit:

Don't judge me, internets! I'm in an obsessed phase. >.>
Bitch-extraordinaire!: From the desk ofsakuracorr on November 22nd, 2010 02:55 pm (UTC)
Different reasons. Fear, in general, being obvious (fear of failure but fear of something you have to do before you can do the thing you like that you don't like at all and thus wish to avoid) but also wanting to 'be in the right place (mentally/emotionally/financially)' for it or fear it won't be as fulfilling as you'd hoped/live up to your expectations and/or memories of it. Because it reminds you of something bad (usually not the case, but something along the lines of "I used to do this with X, and now X is gone/not my friend/can't do it anymore for whatever reason." Because other things feel more important. Because the thing you want to do makes you feel like a child when you're trying to be a grown up. Because the weather won't permit. Because an illness is getting in the way. Feeling like you have no time for it. Because it doesn't distract you from your thoughts/emotions enough when you feel like you need a distraction.

I'm sure there's more, but that's all I could come up with. People are complicated critters.
Little Red: sga - lizzie facepalmmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 01:20 am (UTC)
Those things are probably all true at one time or another!

I think "being a grown-up" is probably part of it. Sometimes I just want someone to make me do the things I want to do.
fyca: Gir tacosfyca on November 22nd, 2010 07:52 pm (UTC)
Fear that the awesomeness you will produce will cause half the world's population's heads to explode from their sheer inability to fully take it all in. That's a lot of guilt. I would hide under the covers as well if I had such an effect on people.
Little Red: trek - ani jazzhands - rightoniconsmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 01:21 am (UTC)
HAHAHA. I love it. \o/
miera_c: CJmiera_c on November 22nd, 2010 09:34 pm (UTC)
Most days, I can only start writing after 10pm.

I wrote most of my dissertation after 10pm. Multiple days, of course, but still.

There are two switches in my brain. At 7pm, no matter how recently I ate supper, my brain goes "Time for dessert???" And at 10pm the other switch goes "OK now you can go do the thing."
Little Red: glee - quinn wtfmylittleredgirl on November 23rd, 2010 01:22 am (UTC)
YES. YES. WHY IS THAT? 10 PM is bedtime, not project-time! But you may have figured it out - 10 PM is always the time writing starts to click.
miera_c: canon whoremiera_c on November 23rd, 2010 02:49 am (UTC)
I think it has something to do with the "this isn't productive use of time" voice in my head. Work-writing I can convince myself is productive but writing original or fanfic stuff feels like I can only do it once everything else for the day is over and I don't have to be responsible anymore.

I envy Nora Roberts, who just writes, all day, every day, without this hangup. Of course, the fact that she does it is probably why she is Nora Roberts and I'm... not.